When I moved back home from New York City a couple of months ago, I thought that I would take a week or two off, relax, enjoy the comforts of home, then get right back working and getting to the paper. But after filling out applications that descended into the magical spam forest of potential employers, I soon realized that life doesn't always unfold the way you might have imagined.

New York City is a whirlwind with a pace of it's own that can/will engulf you. Once you're in "the grind" and start to really embrace that "hustler's mentality," you start to think that something's wrong with you as soon as it all ends. Couple that with having no job, no steady source of income, and no longer having a place of your own, you start to wonder if you have, indeed, become a bum.giphy (3)The bright-side of being unemployed is that you have the opportunity to own your time again.You are your own boss and have only you to answer to. However, this lack of structure can be intimating for some, as you figure out just how to manger yourself until the next door open. At this point in your journey, you can either sulk in the reality of your misfortune or you can get up off you behind and put the below tips in practice to shift your present reality.


Nothing's worst than feeling down about being unemployed along with letting it take a toll on your body. When you feel down, you start to eat bad and even begin to stay inside for days at a time with little to no exposure to sunlight. And guess what that can lead to: depression. You have to get up and get moving, even it's just for a short jog in the morning or a pickup game at night. Get those endorphin circulating!


"An idol mind is the devil's playground." When we have nothing but time on our hands with nothing to do with it, we start spending too much time on social media looking at everyone's life, eating out of boredom, and slipping into a depression (there's that word again). A good way to stop this cycle is by finding something to fill your time. Me? I write. It's therapeutic and helps me process my world. Your hobby may be photography or painting. Running or doing hair. Find something to keep you busy, active, and encouraged, before you know it, it could serve as your new source of income…


Trust me, nothing's worst than staying up all night, scrolling through your timeline, only to fall asleep and wake up to find that it's 2:01pm. Now that you don't have a job, all you have is time; and as many of us know: time is the one asset you can't get back. Don't waste your day sleeping and lounging around in your sorrows because you feel like, "what's the point?" Read a book, study up on your craft, play catch with your nephew, something, anything! Just don't waste it in bed.


Think about it, when you were at your old job, your schedule revolved around the projects you had due and the needs of your supervisor; but that's all gone now. The first few days of you being unemployed, you start to feel like you're at the mercies of time, just floating through your day, unhinged from the structure you once knew. But it's time that you regain control and RECLAIM YOUR TIME! Set a time to wake up, eat, shower, workout, read, pick your nose; everything that you find yourself doing in the day until it feels like clock work again.


I know what you're thinking, "I'm broke! What do you expect me to give." Well, instead of reaching into your pockets, let's start with you time. Schools and local non-profits are always looking for a couple of extra hands to have on deck for their programs. Find an after-school program to join or even start your own! The feeling you'll get by spending time with disadvantaged youth, the elderly, and the shut-in will not only take your mind off your current situation, but it'll also help you realize just how blessed you really are.

Before you go: Are you in between jobs or feel like you're about 3 more Shameless episodes away from becoming a full-time bum? You can stop the cycle and start anew. Let me know you thought on the topic on the comments below, I'd love to hear!

Peace, peace, peace,

Aley Arion 

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when i first set out to create my blog, i just wanted an outlet to balance my mundane college schedule. but over the years, it has become so much more. writing is how i process my world & the events that take place within it. through aleyarion.com, i seek to help my fellow 20-somethings, like me, working to find light when their paths seem darkened and learn from my mistakes so i can save you the trouble of repeating them. aleyarion.com is witty, vulnerable, and transparent, but most importantly, it's me, unapologetically. peace, peace, peace Aley Arion business inquiries: aleyarion@gmail.com

6 replies on “Feeling Like a Bum While You’re in Between Jobs?

  1. I currently work somewhere part time, but I also feel like I could be doing more, you know? So, once I get off work, I usually spend that time applying to full time positions or watching YouTube videos in order to get inspired. I need to practice using more of my free time to do things that don’t require technology though. That’s my goal.

    1. yes, i totally know what you mean! i’m working on getting a part-time job cause I still want to have time to write on the side, but I will say, watching YT videos of sermons & even motivational GRWM’s have def kept my spirits up too! that’s a great goal tho, I’ve always said technology/social media is powerful tool, it’s about how you use it, so I def heard you on that!

      thank you for your comment, I appreciate it, love 💕✨💖

  2. This post is so real right now. I’m working on getting a part-time job now. Finding full time positions just didn’t seem to be working out so I looked at my life and decided what this meant. I concluded that I would try and find a part time job and focus on preparing and applying for graduate school. If there’s anything all this time taught me it’s that I always need to use it to my advantage. Always think about why everything is happening and think about the next step…so that I don’t feel like a bum. Thanks for this post, very relatable.

    1. same, same, same to everything you said!! that’s exactly how I feel about working, like I def need the money but a full-time position just ain’t where it’s at right now. so good that you’re putting your focus on prepping for grad school, what are you majoring in? I know that this time for me is def to work on my writing day in and day out for the next step in my next journey. so glad it resonated with you, love!! thank you for stopping by! ❤

      1. I ended up getting a full time job :/ so far it’s been good i just hope i don’t get burnt out. There’s a pretty high turnover rate in my field, I’m an admissions counselor, so I’ve just put grad school on hold for like another year. I’m glad that I got to find work in the career field, since I would want to go to grad school for higher ed or school counseling. I hope everything is going well for you! I see that you have been super consistent, so keep going!

      2. aww, that’s good girl! no shame it that, cause we all have bills to pay! lol plus, it’s a blessing that you found a position in your field cause a lot of us have to maneuver our way through the cracks and try to break in, so amen to that!

        if it takes you a year, two years or when you get settle down and send your kids off to college to get your master’s it’s still all good cause it was in your timing. as for me, I’m still trying to hear God on my next move. I’ve been doing more freelance writing and as you mentioned (thank you for noticing by the way 🙂 ) I’ve just been trying to stay consistent here and see where that takes me as well! hoping for a plot twist in these closing days of 2017 cause it’s been one hell of a year *GIRL* anyway, glad to hear from you, keep your head up! ❤

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