Yep, not need to adjust your computer or phone screen, you read that correctly.

At 24 years old, I, Aley Arion, still don't know what I want to be when I "grow up."

I remember back when I was maybe 5 or 6 years old, I was gifted a sketching pad from one of my parents. I would spend hours in a corner just filling it out with drawing of clothes, draping my stick figure models. Dresses here, pants suites there, I just knew one day I would become a world-renowned designer like the ones I watched on the Style Channel every morning before school.

(*Like* this you used to watch the Style Channel lol)

But tragedy hit when my older sister got a hold of one of my drawings and in a effort to rescue my masterpiece from her grip, the picture ripped in half.

I was crushed. Devastated.

And that was the day I abandoned my dreams of becoming a fashion designer.

In retrospect, my sister's antics were probably some type of divine intervention to get me off a course of becoming a fashion school dropout because to this day, my drawing skills are far from Picasso. In fact, they suck. Sure, maybe with a little more practice I could have improved over the years, but who's to really say?giphy (2).gif Even my love for fashion has wavered in recent years as I've learned more about the industry. I did a lot of small styling projects back in college and claimed to be a "fashion blogger" for a while. But nothing stuck. The only common denominator in all my premature career ventures was creative production & storytelling: the act of turning nothing into something. Birthing an original idea from the spark of a neuron in my brain and bringing it to life for the world to digest. Searching through someone's life and the events of it to find a story worth telling.

I've done this through my blog. My writing. My videos. Interviews. And still I ask myself: what am I? 

Did you know that back in college, I was a Biology major with a concentration in Chemistry my entire freshman year? I wanted to be a neuropsychologist because of my fascination with human behavior and our relationship with the brain's function…. and it didn't hurt that it paid a lot.

But maybe I was on to something… 

In essence, the human brain is our source of creativity. It's where all of our deepest thoughts, hopes, fears and dreams lie. It stores memories of heartbreak, love, and childhood pains. And is home for the information we've developed over the years from pre-school to the informal classrooms of adulthood. It's where every great business plan and venture was and will be conceived. All right there, in our head.

If you think about it, we can really be anything; even if it doesn't have a name yet. Especially right now with the recent boom in social media influencers and "creatives." No on really has one job or specific title for that matter. Gone are the days where we must be confined to the conventional "doctor," "lawyer," "dentist," response when Aunt Pookie asks, "So… what do you do exactly?" Heck, even the jobs that many of our peers hold didn't even exist when our parents were our age (social media coordinator, what?).

Now, you can tell Aunt Pookie with confidence that you are a photographer and refer her to your Instagram page for proof. You can share with your cousins that you are a creative and how you dabble into a number of projects because your creativity can not be contained to just one thing.

Or you can simply say, "I don't know yet. Just wait and see."

And leave it at that.

Whether you're 19, 24, or even 34, what's wrong with putting your hand into things that make you happy & pay the bills until your find the "glass slipper" to your career path. If you don't have an answer to the dreaded "What are your plans/What do you do?" question, you don't own anyone a response.

"I don't know," is a complete sentence.


Before you go: Do you feel rushed to know what you want to be when you "grow up." Do you feel like you've figured it out? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below, I'd love to hear!

Peace, peace, peace,

Aley Arion 

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when i first set out to create my blog, i just wanted an outlet to balance my mundane college schedule. but over the years, it has become so much more. writing is how i process my world & the events that take place within it. through aleyarion.com, i seek to help my fellow 20-somethings, like me, working to find light when their paths seem darkened and learn from my mistakes so i can save you the trouble of repeating them. aleyarion.com is witty, vulnerable, and transparent, but most importantly, it's me, unapologetically. peace, peace, peace Aley Arion business inquiries: aleyarion@gmail.com

6 replies on “I Still Don’t Know What I Want to Be When I Grow Up…

  1. Thank you for being so transparent. It is hard to figure out what it is you want to do when there are endless possibilities. Journaling and jotting down little ideas here and there can help narrow down a few options.

    1. hey Amaka! thanks for your notes, girl! you are def right, journaling def helps me to keep my ideas flowing & goals on track. it’s like the more I see when I write things down, the more I want to expand on it and do more 😅 but I’ll keep on keeping on & pray they God will guide me in the right directions 💕

  2. Man, our paths were pretty similar freshman year of college. I started out as a biochemistry major (there honestly was no point in that. I didn’t even have a real interest for it) so i quickly switched to psychology for the remainder of college. I was so sure I wanted to be a counselor because I loved the idea of helping others and building those trusted/strong relationships, but I soon realized I didn’t have to major in psychology to do that. So, I struggled the remainder of college trying to figure out what I wanted to be when I grew up and now, at 22 (almost 23) the only thing I know for sure is that I enjoy relationship building and connecting with others by being transparent and open lol. That’s good enough for me!

    1. girl, it is crazy how similar our paths are! wow, biochemistry, just the thought of those classes gives me cold sweats lol but I’m so glad you figured out that wasn’t for you when you did! heck, the fact that you know that much about yourself, wanting to help others & build those trusted relationships is half the battle; you can go safe far & do so many things with that! but at 22, you’re prob fresh out of school, adjusting to the “real world,” so you have time to try out different jobs & hobbies until you find your fit! i’m rooting for you! ❤

      also, if you don't mind me asking, how did you happen to find my blog? (just doing some research) 🙂

      thanks for your notes!
      https://www.instagram.com/aleyarion

      1. I was typing in post regarding Insecure with Issa Rae. I’m doing recaps and I wanted to see if I could find similar material and I found something you wrote.

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