It’s December, bruh.
Like, when did that happened? Seems as if time Usain-Bolted its way from July to November to now, with little to no notice, leaving me with no time to get prepped for cuffing season! And it’s getting cold out here.
I’ve been out the dating game for about a year now, so it’s not like I’d be hitting the courting world again like I’m Stephen Curry or something. My cuffing season bench is hurt, injured; I would even go as far to say that it’s nonexistent.
Now that we’ve established that my hotline won’t be blinging and that “Netflix & Chill” will remain a foreign concept, what’s a girl to do? My advice: spend time with the Lord.
I’m not going to lie, I had a whole other route planned for this post, but the good Lord tapped me on the shoulder and was like, “Hey, what do you think you’re doing?” Let’s just say, I had to go back to the drawing board and relate this post to what I’ve been working through lately.
You see, I’ve been distracted… again… by all the mess that is social media. Everywhere I turn, someone new is in a relationship while I’m sitting over here with ZERO prospects. ZILCH, NONE, NADA.
And I think to myself, “I’m cute as heck, intelligent, funny, talented, etc. etc. Why don’t nobody want me?!”
But what I’ve come to realize is that God wants all of me. So if you’re anything like me and have a calling over your life, there are some dry seasons that you’re going to have to go through; with relationships, not having the job you want, or “success”. It just comes with the territory.
I’ve learned that it’s during the valleys of your life that you must press through the most, building up your relationship with Christ so that you don’t miss out on what you need to get before you reach your peak. That means spending time with God in prayer and in the Word. That’s the only way to hear his voice.
For a while, I thought I could do things my way and bring God along for the ride, but that was beyond BACKWARDS. I thought I could date whoever, go wherever and do whatever then run back to God and ask him for forgiveness. Don’t get me wrong, when you do something that’s out of the will of God, and repent with a sincere heart, He will forgive you, but when you know better, you have to do better. And it’s time to do betta.
Not partaking in cuffing season is the perfect time to build your relationship with God because you don’t have the distraction of little Susie or Johnny tempting you to do what you know you have no business doing in the first place. Psalms 119: 11 says:
I have hidden your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you. (NLT)
So as we spend time with God in His Word and meditate on what the Bible says, we can begin to fight against temptation, doubt, worry, and all the other troubles of the world with what God says about it. Not to mention that it also helps you to truly understand God’s love for you so before you start looking for love in man, you know the true source, on a personal level.
Let me be the first to say that I understand how hard it can be to find time to spend with God, let alone stay focused while praying. That’s why in Matthew 6:6 Jesus tells says:
But when you pray, go away by yourself, shut the door behind you, and pray to your Father in private. Then the Father, who sees everything, will reward you. (NLT)
We want so bad to have private time with a boo thang and when they hit up our phone, we find the time in our schedule to chill with them, without hesitation. I mean we can have work in the morning, two projects due by 11:59pm, and brain surgery to perform, but we still make that sacrifice for bae. But that same time and effort we spend with them, can be put into spending time with the Lord; and trust me, there’s a way greater reward coming from that.
One person who has been instrumental in teaching me how to spend time with God is Heather Lindsey. If you’re not familiar with her, she’s a blogger, YouTuber, Founder of the Pinky Promise Movement and Women of Christ that shares extremely helpful Christian advice that has truly shaped me. Her most recent video, “How to Spend Time with The Lord and learning to Hear His Voice” inspired this post so I’ve linked it below. I pray that it will help you like it helped me.
I hope you all have peace during your single season & trust that God has you and your life safely in the palm of his hand.
Get cuffed by His Word and allow Jesus to be your bae this season and forever. His love for you is unconditional.
You’ve just been served.